Senior Year and Seniority

Who doesn't want to be a senior for once in their life and show some attitude for gaining such position?? A position gained after years of hard work in passing out the classes and finally being one of the seniors of college is one of the exhilarating experience for all those seniors who are "bad guys" . With the term "bad guys" I mean those people who indulge in unasked for activities such as - ragging the juniors, tearing down the benches, getting involved in college politics to the extent of using firearms and buttering up the influential people now and again. In short Bad guys are those who have the hand in getting us holidays for no reason such as public holiday at all. In my case I am ready to use the term "bad girls" who do the same in girls college where I study.

I forgot to mention that the experience and its influence is felt by the decent people too. But they are different from the others because they know how to avoid trouble and show the seniority to a certain extent. During my 4 years in my college I never came across a senior who tried to show bad seniority to me or my group for certain reasons such as-

1) My group stayed in background.
2) My group was influential enough to report the matter to the Chief Proctor of College because I knew her.
3) One of my friend's sister is the Lecturer in college.
4) The students in college never recognized each other as senior or junior since its difficult to point them out.
5) We always faked we are the seniors whenever someone tried to be shirty with us.


I have been meeting my classmates who are decent enough to give a damn to the fact that they are seniors and I met some today who are under the category of "bad girls". I have drawn a line to the extent of my mixing up with the bad girls group so our meeting is "Hi" and "Hello" and certain snatches of conversation which involved the words that I blush furiously to think of and embarrassed enough to mention here.

People might be reading and thinking that why am I wasting words when they already know what's what in their senior year, but you see I am just laying down the foundation of two experiences I have had with regard to seniority in past 3 days.


First of all you people should know that I look younger than I actually am which resulted in the first incidence. The whole thing started in the Staff Room of English department. The juniors were getting their forms signed by the Incharge and I was being rebuked by other teachers for my bad performance. The juniors thought I was their junior and tried to pick on me after i left the room. But unfortunately for them one of the teacher's turned up to ask the release date of Harry Potter(she is Harry Potter buff and i made my project under her supervision) and the juniors had to go away. The teacher understood the problem I might face told the girls that I was a senior and if they came to me with the hopes of getting some help in their subject I might help them if they asked decently. Now that made my day after a terrible start I had in staff room and was on point of blubbering out at home in my bathroom the first thing I might have done on reaching home. But the gobsmacked looks on their faces was enough for me to forget all about it.


The other incident took place today itself when I was standing in 10 feet long line of students while depositing our fees. We all worked hard (changing positions and relieving the aching foot and stuff You know people do while standing) for quarter an hour and I got the chance to submit my fees finally. But another girl turned up who was in my year and shoved her hand inside the window and that act was enough to flare one up. You see when a person is frustrated, patient and miserable all at once then no one should cross him/her. Well the juniors protested the girl's act of cutting the line and i told her off for showing her seniority somewhere else but not here since i was her age and the other stuff. But still the girl had her fees submitted and told them to shove their hands too if they have any problems and threatened the girls to see them outside the college. The girl didn't say anything to me because she knew me and she knows now that i will be out looking for her and will be giving her a piece of my mind. I told the juniors to remember my name (Thank Goodness I din't made them learn it since my name is memorable, all they had to do was remember Jagjit Singh) and if any kind of trouble is aroused they can approach me or my fellow students in a certain class and they are sure to get help.


There is a way of showing Seniority to the juniors and people should know it how to because their negligence in certain ways lead to bad impressions and bad relationships between seniors and juniors. Just considering the Juniors for once as humans or remembering the times when we were once juniors and how we might have looked in that position is no big deal, and changing the outlook of seniority for the sake of name of college and country will be a best step taken by the young generation. Ragging done in a decent way so as not to make a junior feel so haunted to commit suicide will never be appreciated. Though it is banned but some people still do it because their hands itch after getting the promotion in senior most year of the college. Well it can not be avoided but people can try on that part i guess....

Missing Someone

There are parents and grandparents almost in every family. Parents play their role in raising their kids and Grandparents play their role in raising their grand children. Grand parents give ethical education to the kids and Parents teach them about manners and behavior as expected of their children in modern society.

What happens if one doesn't have grand parents?? what if one of the parents or one of the grand parent is missing from one's life? It depends on how a person takes it. I never got the love of my grand fathers from both of my parent's side. Though i did had maternal grandmother whom i lost when i was in 7th grade. When i grew up i started feeling the missing link of my life. I missed having an old man in my life who could tell us more about the life of his times and life he lead as a boy. It's different to hear it from one's grandmother because the way of telling about one's life is different and telling about someone else's life is different.

I came across many old people in my life and started thinking of one couple as my grandparents and called them so. They never minded me calling them so. I liked to hear stories from them and about life in their times. But I still missed the presence of my original Grandparents. But one can't change the reality of life and has to face it time and again. Same goes for the people who have lost their parents or a parent in their life. They didn't get the same care and love as they could have in the presence of their lost ones. After all a child needs his mother and father both to raise him.

The grandparents are important in their own way. They guide and give the knowledge in the form of stories, either from their lives or from the old writers. They inspire kids in their own way. These old time thinkers are valuable in their own way as the thinkers of our modern times are. No matter what their thoughts are regarding the gradual changing modern world, but there are some grand parents who adjust according to the modernity and accept the changes as they are presented. As it is known by people out there, not all the people have the same thinking.

A Regular Family Incident-3

Ana:- Man!! I could n't sleep last night.

Priya:- Why so?

Ana:- I was studying last night and went to sleep at 12 as usual and then I felt hot while sleeping because mum switched off my fan as my parents are afraid of the fan coils being burned while using it with inverter.

Priya:- Then??

Ana:- Well I woke up at 3:15 and switched on my fan and slept again.

Priya:- So? u slept again? Then how come you could not sleep later on?

Ana:- Well, listen to me first...I did turn in after that but i dreamed that i was being chased by S.T. Coleridge who wrote Rime Of Ancient Mariner in our syllabus, and he wanted to kill me because i attempted his question in the previous paper and my answer was not up to his poetic fantasies.

Priya:- Hahahahahaha... poor you

Ana:- And the worst of this was i heard something in my room... someone saying something

Priya:- Huh? What? Who?

Ana:- Well I myself was so scared stiff that I got two things in my mind 1) someone's in my room 2) I am dreaming with my eyes open

Priya(shudders):- Did you find out who or what was it??

Ana:- Well , I woke up an literally yelled with thudding heart "Who's There??" And guess what I saw next??

Priya:- What??

Ana:- My mum was sleeping next to me because her room's fan had stopped working and she was muttering a word or two in her sleep

Priya:- Awww...poor u..
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Ana:- It was 4:15 in the morning

Priya:- hehehehehe

Ana:- And i had stomach ache next.All thanks to these two night wanderings

Priya:- hehehehehe... U do get into something while sleeping no?

Ana(sighs):- Don't bother..

A Regular Family Incident-2

Ray:- care to tell me what happened last night that you and mum are giving each other deadly looks??

Tina:- U better not ask...

Ray:- Aw come on sis...please tell me...i am dying to know..if u tell me i'll get ur mobile recharged with my own money for 15 bucks.

Tina:- Fine. Well last night i was using net till 2.

Ray:- So? U use it late in your vacations. Nothing new in that.

Tina:- Last night was later than usual. I couldn't help it you see.

Ray:- Then?

Tina:- Then I saw my room's door opening slightly. I didn't realize it. But then i saw someone standing in the darkness of lobby.

Ray:- Spooky...Who was it??

Tina:- I was talking my friend on net regarding zombies and i was scared stiff with his version of the dead people coming alive and stuff. Well i heard mum saying, "close the computer". It was all so sudden... Though she said it quietly I got scared stiff and fell from my chair yelling "Zombie".

Ray:- WHAT?? U CALLED MUM ZOMBIE??

Tina:- I didn't mean to besides u should have seen her. In her nightgown with face all scarred from sleeping on her embroidered pillow and her eyes squinting.

Ray:- ha ha ha ha...This is so funny!! U called mum zombie...no wonder you are angry at her for scaring you and she is angry at you for calling her a zombie.

Tina:- Shut up and get my mobile recharged.

Ray:- Ha ha ha ha...let me tell this story to some more people like your friends...that will be fun...

Tine:- Shut up and leave my room.

(Tina throws a pillow and Ray leaves laughing)

A regular family incident

Preeti, Priyansh and their parents in car.....

Preeti:- Can I go to Jaipur with Arti this summer?? with her family of course.

Mum:-No

Preeti:- Can I visit our relatives in kolkata with Sheena?? Her in-laws are there and she is going back for a few days.

Mum:- No

Preeti:-Can we go out of this blasted city for a few days during my vacation??

Mum:- Mind your language young lady and the answer is no. Besides you will be getting a big No every time you ask the question regarding vacation.

Dad:- I'd prefer driving in silence which you guys lack in.

Preeti:- Can i drive the car??

Mum & Dad:- No

Preeti(grumbling):- What's the use of having a driver's licence when I am not allowed to drive the car and what's the use of being of 23 when i am not allowed to go out and have fun?

Priyansh:- Well keep grumbling and one of these days you'll be given the opportunity to do what you want.

Preeti(snorts):- Yeah as if u said it and it will be so.

Dad:- Will you two stop bickering?? Its difficult to drive when two of you are bickering and making noise.

Preeti(irritated):- I hate this.

Priyansh(muttering):- Join the club sis. They are planning to kill us of boredom this summer.

Preeti:-geez...its nothing new bro. Let's wait for their plans to be revealed this summer.

Our Family

Our Family...sounds good when we all say or hear such words. These words make us feel that we have some people in our life with whom we have a spiritual relationship. Every family has to face good and bad times, i know there's nothing new in this fact but what about those people who suffer the good and bad times alone... without a family.

The other day i met a little beggar child who asked for alms from me and my friend. I gave him a rupee and asked him where is his family and what does his father do? he says" India is my family. All these people who give me alms or kick me or feed me instead of giving money are my relatives." my friend and i couldn't believe on what he said so i asked again,"why do u consider this country as your family?" he replied," because in this world i have no one to call my own except this country. If anything good happens to it, i am happy. If anything wrong happens to it, i suffer with the people."

See how a beggar child can say so easily that i love my country and its a big family. Its difficult for most of us to say this because we don't come out from our general family sphere. It's like a circle is made for some of us and we don't have to move out of it unless permitted to be a part of the big family either by defending it or voting for the leaders,otherwise bound to the natural family and have the arrogance and say, "who cares? It will be same for next ten years to come why should we bother about our country and why should we try to change it?"

There are people who don't even consider that if they start bringing changes in a family it will be better for the next generation to come. The new generation will play more active role in it. Nothing wrong can happen if changes are meant for the betterment of the country and its people and this implies not to India alone but all the countries of the world.

There are other people who do take active part in the scenario of changing the phase of the country but these people are always facing the setbacks in their roles. Who's fault is it? Nobody can determine it.

And finally there are those who change the scenario to some extent but then they lie dormant for their own benefits.

Bringing changes in the family,whether the changes are big or small one has to make efforts in that field. The only difference in the natural family and country is that we can bring changes in our natural family on small scale but in country we have to make changes on large scale. If family members won't bring changes in the family then who will??